Filed in elopement — April 7, 2021

The Myths and Misconceptions of Elopements

A Photographer Busts the Myths and Misconceptions about Elopements

What is an Elopement?

Over the years I’ve found that busting the myths and misconceptions of elopements can happen just by clarifying a definition. Elopements are considered small and intimate weddings. Really, it’s that simple. No, this doesn’t mean it has to just be the two of you! For some, nothing is more meaningful than sharing your special day with only your spouse. For others, they want at least some friends and family there to celebrate with too. This is just ONE of the many misconceptions about eloping. Let’s bust them all from start to finish!

Myth #1: Elopements are Only for You and Your Spouse

As I said before, this is just absolutely not true. When you say you’re eloping, everyone automatically assumes that it’s only going to be the two of you. NOPE! When you elope you can still bring a few family and friends if you want; remember it is your day and you can still do as you please.

Myth #2: Elopements Have a Quick Timeline and Aren’t as Meaningful

10000% disagree. I’ve photographed hundreds of intimate weddings + elopements, and I can tell you with absolute certainty that they are some of the most meaningful weddings I’ve seen. And quick? Pleeeeeeeease. When my team and I craft the timeline for our couples on their day, we make sure that they get every moment they desire. From getting ready, to walking down the “aisle,” to taking sunset pictures. Here is a sample elopement timeline we have put together for reference.

11:00 am – Photographer (me!) arrives to check in with bride, florist to arrive with florals, and other vendors 

11:30 am – Hair and makeup to begin for the bride / getting ready pictures 

12:30 pm – Hair and makeup to end 

1:30 pm – First look photos 

2:00 pm – Photographer + bride + groom + guests to head to ceremony location 

3:45 pm – Ceremony 

4:30 pm– Picnic or change of attire

6:00 pm– Sunset Photos

6:30 pm – Dinner to Follow

Myth #3: Elopements are for Couples Who Just Want to Get Married at the Courthouse

99% of my elopements do NOT take place at a courthouse. So yeah, enough said. Let’s put that myth to rest forever! My couples love to get married in remote locations like Big Sur, Yosemite, Sedona, and more.

Myth #4: You Don’t Have To Plan For an Elopement

WRONG! There is a lot of planning that goes into an elopement. You have to pick your location, which may come with required permits (yes, we help you with that). You’ll be getting outfits, accommodation, and often additional vendors like a florist, baker, or makeup artist. Just because you may be having a smaller wedding, doesn’t mean you don’t want to look your best (whatever that means to you), and enjoy delicious food and drink!

Myth #5: Elopements are Last Minute

Yes, this can be true, but not always. There are a lot of couples who want to elope and have a party later. Some love intimate settings and don’t want to be the center of attention. Party or no party, guests or no guests, many couples take months or even years to schedule and plan their elopement. As with all my advice for couples planning a wedding: you do what’s best for you.

Myth #6: Elopements are Just to Save Money

For some, yes. But for most, no. Elopements are so important to the people who chose this route for their nuptials. Elopements are intimate, romantic, and adventurous. Some elopements can still cost a pretty penny once you add it all up. After securing your locations, permits, flowers, attire, rings, etc you may be surprised how much you’ll want to save up.

Is an Elopement Right For You?

Do you still have questions about elopements? I want to hear them. If after busting these myths and misconceptions you still ant to know more, don’t hesitate to reach out. I would love to talk with you and your fiancé about whether or not an elopement is right for you. Comment below or reach out to me on my site and we can see if the shoe fits (so to speak). I absolutely love helping couples plan an elopement, and have experience in elopements of all types of sizes, budgets, and locations. I can’t wait to meet you!

Meet Our Couples

Learn more about couples from this Blog here:

A Plan B Elopement at Yosemite

A Non-Traditional Glamping Elopement

Plan Your Big Sur Elopement

More of our favorite elopement sessions:

Elopement at Cathedral Beach

Hatcher’s Pass Alaska Elopement

Seaside Santa Cruz Elopement

Salt Flats Elopement


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