A Simple Guide To Writing Your Own Vows
When you sit down to write your vows, it’s helpful to know why vows are a part of the wedding ceremony. Vows are a traditional part of the wedding ceremony for two reasons. First, vows offer the couple a chance to reflect during an otherwise hectic day. Second, your wedding vows serve as a guide for the type of marriage you want.
Many couples choose to write vows, and I find it is a tear jerker ever time! When couples write their own vows they are unique and hold promises meaningful to that couple.
Before You Begin Writing
First off should discuss your idea to write your vows with your your officiant. They will have plenty of advice for planning how your ceremony will flow. For example, how much flexibility will you have to write your own vows based on your religious traditions? They can also help you consider your venue and the tone you want to set.
Vow Writing Questionnaire
Your wedding vows should reflect your unique love story. The following questions will help you begin to craft personalized vows. Vows that will reflect the love story you’ve shared so far and the promises you want to share moving into this next chapter.
Your Love Story:
Looking Back on Your Love Story
1. How did you meet?
2. What’s a favorite date or trip together?
3. What does your fiance do that makes you feel special?
4. How did you get engaged?
5. Write down a few of your favorite inside jokes.
Looking Forward to Your Marriage
6. How do you envision the two of you together in 5 years, 10 years, 30 years.
7. How will you try to reach these milestones together?
8. Why you love your partner?
9. How do they love you.
10. How will you show up in your marriage?
Finally, choose some words that hold meaning to the two of you.
Example of Wedding Vows
I feel like the luckiest person in the universe because of your love. It’s hard to remember what life was like without you. I appreciate all you do for me, little things, like opening doors for me, to the big things, like making me a priority, you show how special I am to you everyday. I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you. I love you.
I vow to be your travel buddy, so you stay forever curious,
to be your safe space, so you have a place to rest your head;
to be your sunshine when the night seems to go on too long;
to be the best partner because I’m the lucky person who gets love you and share my life with you.
I love when couples write their own vows, and I also find it really special when they read those vows before the ceremony just to one another. If you need more tips on planning your wedding day, be sure to check out all our blog post under Tips for Couples.